Are we talking about you here? Do you save stuff? Do you collect things? Save animals or other people? Do you linger in unhealthy situations because you are concerned others will fall apart without you? Are you inclined to conserve your resources like time & energy? Do you accumulate things? Are you living below your means in order to save your money? Are you saving your money in things like savings accounts or CD’s? Does your savings make you feel safe, secure, and prepared?
You were born with one of 7 ways of relating to the world, and if this describes you then this may be your paradigm: the Saver. There is a positive side and a negative side, just like all the other paradigms. On the positive side, you have the ability to build a cushion through saving your money. You are generally prepared for any eventuality and often frugal. You are able to create safety, security, and predictability. When you successfully save others- people, animals, the environment- you do a lot of good. You waste very little.
A stuck & dysfunctional Saver has an unhealthy attachment to money, people, and stuff. Unchecked saving can become hoarding and saving others can become about control. You can be greedy, taking the biggest serving at the table if you can’t have the whole thing. You can sometimes be cheap or withholding. The money you save is likely just sitting in an account or a hole in the backyard, doing nothing rather than generating more money. You may have found yourself staying in an unhealthy job situation out of fear of missing the opportunity to save more money only to have to save yourself when it gets too bad to continue! You get the idea.
Being a healthy Saver means knowing how to balance your need to save with your need to evolve. This is a paradigm that is held up as an example to which most people are told to aspire: saving your money will save you in your later years. And saving is good to a certain extent. If you get stuck in your paradigm you are actually limiting your capacity to save: your money can’t create greater value for you in the future. It may be hard for a Saver to know when they are stuck because a big aspect of this paradigm is comfort. However, it is a good practice to ask yourself these questions:
- Is saving what & as much as I do propelling me forward or keeping me in one place?
- How are my finances? Could that part of my life be better? What would that look like?
- How are my relationships? Could that part of my life be better? What would that look like?
- How am I experiencing my time? Could that part of my life be better? What would that look like?
- How is my health? My nutrition? My fitness? Could that part of my life be better? What would that look like?
It is very likely that if any part of your life isn’t what you’d like it to be and you’ve experienced the same things over and over again, you’re stuck. The stress & detachment of being stuck isn’t necessary, it’s not “the way it is.” You can evolve into your higher self, the version of you who uses your strengths to live the life you want rather than teetering on the line between saving & hoarding.
The first step is to really know yourself. Take our paradigm survey to find your nature and reach out to us with your questions. Or come to our workshop on March 28; details here.
You can evolve.
Know yourself. Know what you want. Find the right coach. Evolve with your money.
Disclosures: The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual. They do not necessarily reflect the views of LPL Financial.
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